Ariel X contemplates issue for Submissive X
I have good news I suppose. Evolved Fights has been very successful. So successful that it has afforded me to be able to finance the lesbian edition and start evolvedfightslez.com. This is great for my long term goal of becoming a
It’s that weird time of year; Porn Awards time. I’ve always thought some of the awards for porn were funny. I’m not trying to knock anyone. It’s great to be known as ” Best blow jobber” or whatever…but I always thought ” What will you do with that trophy” do you put it in your house, on display? I have tons of sports trophies..they sit in a drawer. I have a few championship belts that I have on display on a bookshelf. People come by and comment on the Belts. I envision my having a ” Best anal gape” trophy on display and what kind of hilarity would ensue when I have inlaws coming in from out of town staying with us. LOL…the imagery of potential fun conversations makes me laugh a lot. I imagine I would run into similar fun conversations for “Producer of the Year” or “Innovator of the year” as I would need to explain what I produce. Now, I don’t have any inlaws who are unaware of what I do. I have been in the adult industry for nearly 15 years and one does not have a 15-year career in porn without everyone you know knowing what you do. I do not hide what I do as I am not shamed by it. I’m merely stating that explaining these type of awards would be a fun conversation IE ” yes they really do give awards for the best anal performer, how do they determine it? well they get paid off by companies and agent or they all bang the right people…you know, much like the Oscars” I digress
I am entering into the Manyvids contest in hopes to win “Producer of the year” and “Innovator of the Year” for my Evolved Fights projects. I am also entering a “Producer of the Year” and “Submissive of the Year” for my Submissive X Projects. I appreciate these types of awards since they are determined by the fans rather than the industry insiders. If you could please vote for me in each of these divisions, I would greatly appreciate your support.
Thank you and please enjoy the trailers for some of my work, in case you have not seen it.
2018 was a pretty interesting year for me. I have yet to determine if it was interesting in a good way or a bad way. It was easily the most stressful year for me. January of 2018 was annoying for production. January is always annoying for production in the porn industry. January is typically the month that all the major porn conventions happen AEE, Xbiz So there are so many industry parties and models from around the globe all travel to the cities where the conventions are being held so that they can network and be seen. It’s supposed to be great for booking models that one would otherwise not be able to book due to geographical restrictions. However, some models don’t know how to have a balance with work and party time at these conventions. January is always a shit show for productions. Models party too hard and “no show” to shoots which costs me tons of money and headaches. Canceling productions cost money and piss off me and my entire crew. I always tell models, If you need to cancel I’m totally fine with it but a least call me ahead of time so I can find someone else to replace you and save the shoot. Alas, common sense isn’t common with some people. So January I lost a ton of money from flakey models. I also had models show up sick to my sets which in turn got me and my crew sick. That’s always fun.
Feb, March, April May all seem like a blur. I was shooting so much and getting my site ready to launch that I can’t even recall anything of significance in those months. I just recall working all day and all night, feeling stressed out and frustrated while I was learning all kinds of new programs for editing and design. I know I didn’t take any holidays for a long time and when I did finally get a holiday, I was working and stressed the entire time because I still had to meet deadlines and had responsibilities. I’m not complaining about any of this. This is all part of running your own business. I always said that most people don’t deserve to be successful because most people aren’t willing to make the sacrifices it takes to be successful. I think the general population looks at people who have been successful and they only notice them when they are on top. We see all these professional people who have their shit together and we have no idea what struggles they went through to get where they are. Many people see rich people and just assume they inherited great riches or had something handed to them. Some people hit the financial lottery through birth but most people who are on top and stay at the top have earned their spot through trial and tribulations and they heard “NO” a lot more than they have heard “YES” and they fell a lot before they could walk. I heard a comedian say this one time and it was funny and true as all hell: ” Success is like pregnancy, everyone congratulates you on it but no one knows how hard you got fucked to get there”.
In May I was released of my contract with Kink which was a huge burden off my chest. While I enjoyed working with kink, they demanded much of my time and attention which took away from my goals to start my own website. From May -September, I worked tirelessly with my web designer to get Evolved Fights Launched. We had a few setbacks. The launch was delayed a few times; potential members were getting excited and frustrated with every delay. Again, no one knows what happens behind the scenes. So many people just want a finished product and they want it perfect but they have no idea what kind of money, time, energy (so on so forth) goes into creating that product. Then you tell them the cost they need to pay for the finished product and they can’t understand why they can’t have it for free.
September up until the very last day of December, I worked tirelessly on marketing for the site(s). I have listened to every word the members and fans have put out about the products. I gave free content to get feedback on future concepts, I haven’t paid myself a penny in September so that every cent made from my site goes right back into the product to bring new, excited shoot and talent to the website. I love what I do. Again, I’m not complaining. I’m merely letting people know what kind of work and sacrifices I have made to ensure that My 2019 is an explosive year of success for me. The site has been picking up a lot of steam. It’s been getting great feedback and it is still evolving. I am excited about potentially doing live cam shows for the matches. I will be attending a few trade shows so fans can meet their favorite wrestlers….lots of fun things down the line. All of this cost money. All of this takes time and energy to produce. I’m a one-woman show. I do not have helpers yet. I’m excited to start making enough money so that I can afford helpers in 2019.
I am excited to launch the Lesbian Edition of evolved Fights in early 2019. My web guy and I did a ton of market research. We put a handful of the lesbian matches on Kink.com and evolvedfights.com and the feedback has been incredible. I will be starting a stand-alone site for the g/g wrestling in early 2019. I have had several people write me to ask me what is going on with Ultimate Surrender. As I mentioned earlier in the post, I no longer have any contract with kink for their productions. I will be starting my own lesbian wrestling site and it would be a huge conflict of interest for me to shoot any wrestling content for kink.com productions so I will not be shooting for their productions. I have no decision making power for kink. I have no influence on what they do or how they do things. If you have an issue with how ultimate surrender is being handled, it is out of my hand and has been since 2017. If you have a complaint about Ultimate Surrender not updating, Dont tell me about it, I don’t care to be frank. It’s not my site, it’s not my problem, I have my own lesbian wrestling website to worry about. I have been licensing some of my titles to companies like hotmovies and kink so that they can display some of my shoots on their platform, however, I will not be giving them my full catalog of content. If you do see some of my shoots on their sites ( thank you for watching) and understand that if you do wish to see my full catalog, the only place you can get everything will be at www.evolvedfights.com
Noteworthy in 2018:
I was promoted to Brown Belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsue on August 11th
I won the championship belt in NAGA’s advance No Gi division September 19
My dear friend Jen took her life at the end of September
My 12 year old Great Dane Passed away Dec 23rd.
I shot 2 submissive X shoots in vegas so there will be new Sub X shoots coming to my clips stores. Apparently, Clip4sales bans fisting so I had to edit out the fisting part in my scene with Nikki Delano. If youre not into fisting, get the video on clips4sale. If you are into fisting, get the video on Manyvids.
My shoot with Nikki was a lot of fun. I really get along with Nikki well. she’s super cute and she’s a hustler. I admire her hustle game. That girl knows how to work the internet like no one I’ve ever met before. She has 1.35 Million Twitter followers. That’s incredible for porn standards let alone mainstream. She’s always on time, She’s always pleasant, She’s super sexy and she really goes above and beyond what it takes to make a good scene. Our scene was a little bit of a role play. She is a native in a secret jungle who stumbles upon some washed up box that has found itself in her jungle. Nikki Delano can smell ass and pussy from a mile away. After all, her people Love ass and pussy and they eat it daily for pleasure. Nikki opens the box and finds what she considers to be savage in the box but it’s also “lunch”. Nikki Pulls the confused Ariel X out of the box and tells Ariel she is going to eat her. She begins to lick and taste Ariel. Ariel is terrified, She doesn’t want to be eaten. Once Ariel Realizes that Nikki’s people calling “oral sex and fucking ” Eating, Ariel is a little more at ease. She’s no longer terrified but she still wants to get out of the creepy jungle. Nikki Fucks Ariel’s pussy and Ass and makes Ariel lick her amazon feet clean so that Ariel has all the nutrients needed to make her ass and pussy taste the best. Ariel is fucked hard by Nikki and then left in bondage so that the entire tribe can come in and eat Ariel as well.
I had a hell of a week last week. I think the city I live in made national news first with the mass shooting in a Country Club near me. The coverage of this shooting fell to the wayside after a terrible Fire swept through a large part of Southern California and right into my town. The fires were devastating. Many of my friends lost their homes but gladly no more of my friends lost their lives. The tragedies brought out the best of some people and the worst in others. During the fires, there were mandatory evacuations and many people left their homes. Because the nation was broadcasting that everyone had left their homes, many opportunists with malicious intent starting coming into the neighborhoods to loot the abandoned homes. I myself stayed home. Me and my family were able to help out in small ways by putting out the small spot fires that would start up from flying embers. We were able to put out these small fires before the hit the brush and ignited. Obviously, if we were looking at big fires coming at us, We probably wouldn’t have been able to do much. We had our cars packed up with valuable and whatever and were ready to leave at the drop of a hat if things got really hairy. It was strange to see what people thought was “important to pack”. For myself, I packed my computer, my hard drives, my legal documents a few changes of clothing and protein bars and water. It was hilarious explaining to my family that I needed to pack my hard drive of Porn. LOL. honestly, at the end of the day, I do still need to get my content up for the fans. Paying members in Germany really dont’ give a flying fuck if my house burns down with all my porn. Models aren’t going to reshoot for free because I lost the content in a fire. The world isn’t like that and the show must go on. “Save the porn” was one of the first things I thought. My family was busy backing knickknacks and memories. …….so this can give you an idea of how pressing the fire was in my immediate neighborhood but trust me a mile down the road, houses were burning down left and right….the neighborhood next to us is completely charred and gone. There wasn’t ” fake news” reporting red herrings. The fires and the shootings were real. I sadly have to say this because I have been reading so many conspiracy theories online. People are interesting. I don’t wanna get political on my porn blog but Jesus Christ some people are really fucking dumb.
So after the Shooting, we had the fires. After the fires let up, the freeways and roads were reopened and I was able to leave to go to my Studio in Las Vegas. One side note I would like to make here: I do post a lot about Las Vegas because my Studio is in Las Vegas. I do not nor have I ever Lived in Nevada or Las Vegas. I get so many people writing to me about my living in las vegas. I don’t, sorry. I have been actively looking for a house there but I’m currently waiting for the market to crash in 2 years for the greedy bastards in Las Vegas to drop their shitty home prices…they think they live in New York and are charing NY pricing for some of their mediocre homes……I digress. I was able to head into Las Vegas and I was greeted with a lovely stomach flu. I actually don’t know what it was. First I thought it was a bad reaction to too much smoke but then I started to vomit and then I thought it was food poisoning. Then Models I had in my studio said they got the same thing that lasted 24 hours. All I know is I slept for 18 hours and couldn’t even look at food without wanting to vomit. I’m starting to feel better but I get boats of not feeling great. I am lucky to be back home so I can vomit in my own toilet. I have all my hard drives of porn and I will be editing and uploading the new content soon. I shot 2 submissive X shoots in vegas so there will be new Sub X shoots coming to my clips stores. Apparently, Clip4sales bans fisting so I had to edit out the fisting part in my scene with Nikki Delano. If youre not into fisting, get the video on Clips4sale. If you are into fisting, get the video on Manyvids.
I’m trying to be more consistent with blog posting. It is not my intention to merely post promotion material. I am currently a one-woman operation, running a full site with help from contractors here and there. If any of you run your own business, you probably remember what it was like when you first started out. Firstly, it’s really hard to get a loan for porn, so I have not been able to get financial backing from any banks. I have saved up every penny I have in order to start my business. There are three types of people in this world. People who will take the risk and put the dues in to start their own business, People who are completely fine working for a company and being an employee to someone else, and people who can not or will not work for one reason or another. In my nearly 39 years on this earth, I have heard from each type of these people. Everyone has their own story, and whatever works for them is their prerogative. I have attending many Tony Robbins events, I read a lot of business books. One thing that echoes over and over is that most people are not willing to do what it takes in order to be successful. It could be that they lack the sophistication of knowing how to get the resources to get started, or maybe they are terrified of failure so they play it safe. The shitty thing about success is people tend to only pay attention to the end result. Most of us do not pay any mind to the hard work that got a person to a place of success. It’s a stereotype in the US that rich people are all just born rich. That their mommies and daddies paid for everything for them or if a woman is successful, she must have slept her way to the top. Granted, of course, there are people in this world who were lottery style born into a life of ease like that. But Staying at the top requires hard work as well. I am not trying to brag here or toot my own horn but the fact of the matter is, that in the niche of adult entertainment wrestling, I am the biggest authority of the genre. People see my success but they really have no idea what work I have put into every aspect of what I do. I train my mind and body very hard to have what I have. I was not blessed with amazing skill or muscles. I built everything I have. There is a lot more to running a full competitive Adult mixed wrestling site than meets the eye as well. People see the end result, The website is up, they can purchase videos. They have not idea what costs and stresses come with the building of the site. There’s of behind the scenes efforts put in to make a successful business. I just want to remind you all of that so you can understand why I haven’t had the time to post detailed person blog posts.
With that said, I’d like to tell you all of some adventures I have and hopefully in the process clear up some confusion. If you follow my accounts on Twitter, I do post that I shoot in Las Vegas. I do shoot in Las Vegas, I do NOT live in las vegas. I do NOT live in Nevada at all. I live in California where I have the honor of paying really stupid high taxes and sitting in some of the most god forsaken traffic you will ever see in your life. I was born and raised in California however with taxes constantly going up, and traffic making it hell for me to get around, I have been flirting with the idea of moving to either Colorado or Nevada. A move to Las Vegas would make the most sense for me but let’s be honest, Las Vegas is the armpit of the world. The summers are unbearable. I have found some lovely areas in Las Vegas however that aren’t terrible. I do have a little tiny condo in Mammoth mountain as well that I can easily get to for the summer months to avoid the Vegas Dessert if I had to. I did check out Colorado this last week. I wasn’t super impressed with it. I will need to spend a little more time there before I decide. Either way, My studio has to stay in Las Vegas, Since what I shoot is sensitive and I’m all set up and established and happy there. I do not wish to fly into Las Vegas any time I have a production.
That’s the update for now. I’m not asking for suggestions on where to move. I know what I like, I don’t care if you like living in Kansas or Utah that’s good for you, I do not want to live there.
Things are coming to an even keel now with my business. The start is always the biggest pain in the ass. I’ve made it over the hump. I will have more time to produce custom videos starting January 2019. I will be attending conventions as well so if any of you wish to meet me in person at the conventions, I suggest you subscribe to the little pop up that you see when you get on to my site so you can get updates on appearances. I will also be doing more webcam work on Herbicepscam.com in 2019.
hey guys, I’m being more active on my blog ( pats self on back and pretends like I’m some sort of important so you should think so too) I want to talk a little about my update that will be doing live on Evolvedfights.com I have a match going up with Jenevieve Hexx and her real-life Partner, Racker. I have a confession to make here! Jenevieve contacted me ( after shooting for me on everything butt )expressing interest in shooting for my competitive mixed wrestling website. She said she had never wrestled before but she was really excited about shooting for evolved. She even wanted to shoot with her Boyfriend because she figured she would lose but wouldn’t feel so horrible if she lost to someone she loved. I was really hesitant to book her. She’s really beautiful and has such an amazing body, but I didn’t want someone who didn’t know how to wrestle to get injured on my set. I worry about these girls. I had no idea how big her BF was going to be but I still was worried. However, I figured they were a couple and knew each other well enough that they wouldn’t hurt one another. I booked them together and when they showed up, Racker arrived in all his splendor and I thought ” oh shit, the tiny little 5’3 girl is going to get clobbered on my mats”. I don’t want to spoil anything but I wanna tell you, Racker was simply awesome and Jen lied to me about never wrestling prior. Don’t let any of that sway you, however, this match was a 1pt difference. It’s the first time ever we had tied round(s). My confession that I mentioned is that I am just as guilty of prejudice and some of my viewers who can’t believe a tiny little girl can hold her own against a big dude. Jenevieve heXXX wowed me. She made me see what the untrained eye sees. I forget sometimes that viewers see things and get ideas in their heads about what the outcome would be. My being a small female myself, know all too well, that a trained female will destroy an untrained male. I can’t say she destroyed the 6′ man….but she definitely held her own against him. Please note: the images chosen for this post are made to showcase Jenevieve and her skill!
Since the Launch of my Mixed Wrestling site, Evolvefights, I have been inundated with emails from civilian men who want to be on the site. In the Porn Industry, we refer to Vanilla people or people who are not in porn as Civilians. While I’m flattered and happy that there is so much buzz and excitement about my site, I’m also perplexed as to how some guy off the street feels entitled to work with a professional company like mine on his very first go around at porn. To me, that’s like a kid fresh out of highschool with no school or job experience, hitting up Mark Zukerberg for a job. I guess maybe if Zuckerberg needs some PR or he might hire you but what are you honestly going to be able to offer his company. Porn is a business, like any other business. There are costs for each production. As a producer, I pay Rental fees for location, I pay a videographer, I pay a Production assistant, I pay a booking manager, I pay the talent for each scene, I have to pay for permits and supplies and costumes and makeup. Let’s say hypothetically, I hire some civilian guy off the street. He promises me that he loves the content on Evolved fights so much that he will 100% be able to maintain a boner and be able to pop. For those of you who are not familiar with porn vernacular, a “pop” is what we call “The money shot” or ” the pop shot” or the climax” in layman’s terms its when the guy nuts! It’s called the “money shot” because that’s what you guys “pay to see”. No matter what your sexual orientation is or how straight you are if you watch porn to “see the chick get fucked,” you are really watching and scrubbing through to the end until you see the guy bust a nut. Ironic I know! You thought you were there for the chick getting fucked, but there you are, getting a boner to another guy’s boner oozing jizz….It’s totally natural, don’t fight it…embrace it.
I Digress, So this Civilian I hypothetically hired makes the promise to maintain his boner and promises to be able to give me that MONEY SHOT. He shows up, he wrestles with one of the female athletes I have. He doesn’t realize it’s real wrestling and it’s competitive and my girls can really fight. He comes out hard the first 3 minutes of the fight and then uses everything he has in the first few minutes and then he’s exhausted and can barely wrestle the next few rounds. He loses. But let’s say for the sake of argument, he does win….I’d be so very very happy. We let the wrestlers clean up and get ready for sex. They take their time, relax, maybe even eat a little. Now it’s time for sex. The lights are on. I have my full crew ready with cameras going. It’s game time! It would be game-time except for one small detail, there is no boner. The fucking guy is nervous. This is his first time fucking in front of an audience ( my crew) on camera. His guy is a little shy and he swears to me “this never happens”. Now if you haven’t picked up on it yet, this scenario isn’t hypothetical. This scenario happens ALL to often on porn sets when they don’t use professional male talent and frankly even happens when they do use professional male talent. Sometimes shit happens. But when that shit happens, I lose several thousands of dollars because I have no porn to sell at the end of the day. I’ve paid the location fee ( they don’t refund me due to lack of boner), I have to still pay my crew for the time, If I flew models out, I lost the flight money, hotel money, food money, makeup money…you get where I”m going here? I’m SOL and it’s all because I put trust in this random guy on the internet who “promised” he would be able to perform. I’ve been in the industry since 2003, This isn’t a new phenomenon, it isn’t going to change, Boners are still going to be missing in shoots unless every male get’s a pump surgically implanted into his dick ( yes you can do that). What will change is how professional companies end up doing business. What has happened is that professional porn companies will not work with “nobodies”. If you don’t have a reputation, You’re not going to get work. Plain and simple.
But how am I going to get experience if NO ONE is willing to hire me.????…ahhh good question young grasshopper. I will break it down to 4 easy steps. I said easy, I didn’t say cheap.
Contrary to unpopular belief, not just anyone can shoot porn and be successful at it. The people who succeed in porn are good at business. They know when to cut their losses, they have learned when to turn people down, they engage with similar businesses. Porn is a business, just like anything else. If you are business minded and professional, you will do okay in porn. In order to get started in porn, you’re going to have to learn to invest in yourself. You can’t very well expect Professional porn companies to take the risk in hiring a nobody so you need to be the Somebody they want to hire. To turn into this somebody, you will need to start doing some work. Broken down in easy to read steps, here goes:
This is exactly what it sounds like. Get your business license, your permits ( look up the laws in your area about shoot) If you need resources to help you research some of this stuff Xbiz.net is extremely helpful. You will be able to find attorneys who specialize in Adult so that you can keep compliant with laws. Make sure what you are shooting in Legal ( contact an attorney if you are unsure if it is illegal or not.) Make sure you learn about 2257 compliance and how to check ID’s. These things are extremely important. Failure to comply with your local laws and federal laws will land you into serious trouble and claiming ignorance that you “didn’t know you had to do that” or “weren’t allowed to do that” is not defensible. Once you have set yourself up as a complaint and legal business owner, you can start shooting your porn in a legal fashion. Find the niche you want to shoot. Save up the money to get a budget for the shoot. If your shoot requires models other than yourself, you should sign up as a member of the Free Speech Coalition . FSC has a lot of resources to offer as well. Read up on the code of ethics and Best Practices. Once you have built some rapport with FSC you may be able to register as a producer on their site. When you first start out, however, you need to build rapport. People need to know you are a legitimate person who’s not trying to lure women into his basement and do creepy illegal things to them. Start making some consensual homemade videos of yourself or if you have a willing and consenting partner, make videos with that person. Show the camera your penis and how well you can maintain an erection. Do not FORCE anyone ever to do anything with you simply because you are desperate to “make it” in the industry.
Anyone can open a clip store. The good thing about clip stores is they take care of hosting and processing for you. They do take a percentage from you but that’s the price of doing business. Edit your videos and upload them to your clips store. A simple google search of “clipstore” will give you a ton of options of companies that host adult clips for sale. Pick one, You can even upload to all of them if you wish. Build up a good stable of content. This is going to be your resume for people to look at when you go to them to hire them for videos. You will need to hire people before people hire you. People will not hire you simply because you show your dick on camera. You should have more than 20 videos on your clips store ranging from 5-20 minutes each
Now that you have established yourself somewhat on a clip store, you may be able to begin working with other models. You can begin by searching for models who shoot content with men. Do not start emailing girls who only do webcam solo work or only do g/g work. Do your homework before you contact models. I am not a big fan of “trade content” I myself don’t do it much. I pay my models to perform for me. If you are brand new in the industry, you should probably offer to pay models as well since you’re a nobody and they can get any dick to work with, you’re not special. When you do work with the models, be respectful, pay them the rate you said you would pay them, don’t be an asshole if someone turns you down for work. Simple things that seem like common courtesy but that get lost when people get emotional about rejection or failure. I also think if you are new, you should try to hire models through agents. The agents tend to do good research about someone who is trying to hire their girl and this protects models from dangerous situations. It also helps you to build a good relationship with agents which helps your reputation in the industry. Agents may do a background check on you. This is to protect their models. If you have a questionable background, You may be be able to work with thier talent.
Now that you have officially become the gentleman of porn, you treat women you work with with respect, you are professional on set, you maintain your erection and you pop when needed, you can start reaching out to agents to get representation. You will find that since you were hiring models through agents and being respectful, You will be received much better by the agents when you go to them to seek representation. Models will even start requesting you as a scene partner because you were so nice and professional. Having a good reputation is important. If you wish to not have an agent represent you, that is okay as well, but that will make it a little more difficult to be hired by major companies in the beginning until you are established more. But None of this is really going to get you anywhere unless you have a decent sized dick that can maintain a boner and can pop on command. I’m not trying to discourage you, but as a producer, I can’t shoot tiny dicks. I can’t see any of the penetration, it looks dumb….there’s a reason why every guy in porn has a huge dick.
This is how a nobody guy gets into porn unless he’s dating a porn star. If by chance, you are dating a porn star chances are she’s already asked you to be in videos with her and you are already making porn. But this post isn’t for those special guys. This is for the hundreds of guys who have sworn they would be amazing at porn and want to do it. I want you to live your dream, this is how you do it. It’s not my obligation to put faith and risk money and time on you just because you like my website. The only shortcut is if you have a girlfriend who’s in porn. If you do not have a girlfriend in porn, tuff tittie. If you are not willing to put in the work or make the sacrifices with your time and money well shit……you’re expecting a producer to risk the time, money and effort for YOU????? nope, Workers turn into JERKERS! You put the work in and you’ll be jerking that jizz all over everyone’s face.
We will be entering the year 2019 shortly. Like it or not 2019, people are watching porn in public and proudly proclaiming their adoration for smut( Thanks for being caught watching Porn hub Kayne). Times sure have changed since I started in 2003 in the industry. I thank Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian for making “leaked” videos which launched them into stardom and made porn an open topic of conversation. I also thank the fact that people are resilient and after years of being oppressed by religion and peers, most of you saw past the bullshit, said, “I’m tired of these hypocrites” and, “fuck it! people are going to judge me no matter what, I might as well get some fun out of this life”. You owned up to your love of sex, porn, and awesome porn stars. You’re a human being and you want interaction. This is natural and how are you going to get it? You’re going to start watching porn because it is a great stress release, it helps you realize you are perfectly normal because you can see other people commenting and sharing the same porn that you like. Hell, you have a rapport with other porn fans now! you’ve found your home! Congratulations, you’re no longer alone in this world.
“Congratulations, you’re no longer alone in this World”
Social Media has made it easier than ever for you to be able to reach out to your favorite star be it, athlete, actor, musician, politician or porn star. Huge celebrities ignore you, however. They have too many fans to keep track of so any interaction you attempt to have with them falls by the wayside. Musicians ignore you, politicians give you nothing, actors don’t know you exist and athletes just want to fuck your girlfriend so they ignore you but privately DM your girl ( WHAT ? you know it’s true don’t act like it’s not). As you browse social Media you stumble upon your favorite porn stars and you see they are very active on their social media accounts so you want a piece of this action. You want that reward trigger in your brain so bad in the form of a “like” or a simple “Thank you” that comes from your favorite porn star. So how do you go about getting that? You’ve been tweeting them non stop for days now and now the worst thing in the world has happened. YOU’VE BEEN BLOCKED!!! how did this happen and how can you avoid it? Here is a list of thing you’re doing wrong when adoring Porn stars. Actually here’s a list of things you’re doing wrong when dealing with any person because, well frankly, pornstars are regular people as well.
We get it, you’re proud of your dick. At any given moment you have 176 photos readily available of your member in every angle, professionally lit, and in every position possible. You are proud of your piece and you think everyone else cares about it, We don’t. Porn Stars see a lot of dick. Its our jobs to see dick. If you worked at a burger joint would you want people sending pictures of burgers day. You’re going to be so judgemental of their burgers when then send you a picture of them. You’re going to be like ” dude I know burgers and that burger you sent me a picture of is garbage….learn how to pack your meat properly before you send me this trash”….That’s exactly how people on the internet view your unsolicited Dick picks. On the rare occasion, you do get a girl on line asking you to see pictures of your dick, please note that you’re probably getting catfished but if you’re not, go ahead and send pictures if they are requested and ONLY if they are requested.
The quickest way to creep someone out who currently goes by a pseudonym is to call them by their birth name. Let’s face the facts, there are several people who do not go by the name on their birth certificate for one reason or another. I have a brother who has one name on his birth certificate but we never ever called him by his birth name. My mother made us all call him by a different name and that’s the name I know him as and THAT’s who he is. If any ever called the house asking for a guy with his birth name, I knew it was either a bill collector or some scammer, because NO ONE called him by the name on his birth certificate. So you assuming that your favorite star even ever went by their birth name immediate makes you look like a tool. It shows that you spent a good deal of time even looking that information up. The first question is WHY are you looking that information up? The second question do you think that knowing their birth name makes you special? If you were able to look it up, that means it’s not really special information that any Tom Dick or Harry could find. It doesn’t bond you with them. It’s not “insider” information. It’s “I took stalking to a whole other level by googling your real name so I can try to find out your record or address”. There is NEVER A REASON TO LOOK UP ANY CELEBRITY’S’ REAL NAME EVER. If by chance the celebrity wants to start going by their birth name for a month to get some PR, so be it. But if you know Madonna as Madonna, Call her fucking “Madonna”. Also, it’s never okay to ask the porn star if you can call them by their “real” name. I know you want to feel more intimate with them. Maybe you’ve shelled out thousands of dollar on their videos. I get it, you feel entitled but you’re not entitled to that personal part of them. You’re really NOT in a realationship with them. They are selling you a fantasy. If they want you to use their real name, give them the time and space to let them approach the subject with you. I have made many friends online who were fans of my work who I now tell them to call me my real name. Unless I tell you it’s okay to use my birth name, MY name to you is Ariel. And if you insist on emailing me addressing me with my birth name, you’re going to get ignored.
I’m not talking “Friends request” on social media, my meaning here is you already follow them or are “friends” on social media but you write them to ask them to be your friend in real life. I get so many of these emails and it’s the weirdest fucking thing I’ve ever seen. It’s like you’re in kindergarten and you ask someone in class to be your friend…what are we, 6? Think about your friends in real life and how you became friends with them. It happened organically. Maybe you were stuck in a class together for a year. You saw each other every day and eventually, one of you cracks a joke about the teacher and you instantly bonded. Or you work at a job and you see your coworkers every day. You don’t start out best friends but over the course of time you develop a mutual hatred for Barbara who works in accounting and you become friends because of your mutual hatred of that bitch Barbara. Fuck Barbara! Or maybe you play sports on a team and after trials and tribulations with your team, you have bonded with them and you’re friends for life. Or maybe you have no friends at all, that’s okay! nothing wrong with that because you’re awesome and you’re your own best friends. That’s the coolest and best friend to have because you’re not going anywhere and you’ll never turn your back on yourself. Again, that just happened organically. You didn’t have to force that friendship. You know they saying ” if you have to force it, it’s probably shit” If you have to force a friendship on someone, it’s not going to work…move along.
” if you have to force it, it’s probably shit”
I know, You want to know how you can get into porn or maybe you need to borrow $100 from this porn star because you know she makes money….. we all need a little help from time to time. What’s it going to hurt to ask for a favor the worst that can happen is they say “no” right. Well no the worst that can happen if you ask a complete stranger for a favor without offering anything in return and they block you and then you never get to interact with the person you claim to adore. Think about all the spam you get from the Saudi prince who needs your help so he can get money out of his country and all you need to do is deposit $10k into this offshore account so he can give you 300Million… it’s bullshit, it’s a scam don’t do it. And if it wasn’t a scam, would you help if the email said ” the prince needs you to give him $10K, that would be great if you could help” What the shit do you get out of that deal? Why don’t do you drop everything you are doing and help this asshole. There is no such thing as Altruism and you’re out of your mind if you expect people to help you for no reason. Even if they did want to do a good deed, they do it so they can brag about the good deed they did. Don’t argue with me on this, George Price proved we are all selfish assholes, I’m not being a dick writing this I’m merely stating facts. It’s been proven that if you want someone to do something for you, you are more likely to recieve help if you offer something in return. So if you would like to get some tips on how to get into the industry start out by offering something in return for example ” hey Ariel I would like tips on how to get in the industry, I heard you had a blog, can you send me the link so I can hopefully get knowledge from it and in return, I will promote the blog to get you traffic to your site. You see, I’m too lazy to use the search box in your blog so if you do the work for me, I promise to help promote your blog and send you traffic.” —-Ahhh… honesty about being lazy AND the promise to promote my blog…how can I resist helping this person out!!
The elephant in the room, let’s talk about it. Porn gets pirated, we get it. I assume most of you reading this blog have watched stolen porn or free porn. It’s this weird thing. Free porn does promote the models but for what purpose? It’s getting stolen and taking money out of our pockets. Getting Views on a tube site that doesn’t pay us does us no good. What’s the point of having 1M fans/views if none of those people are paying to see your stuff…. oh what , we’re infamous, we get to have all the crap that comes with being a celebrity, we get the harassment, the stalkers, the haters, the complainers all this without any of the glories of financial compensation? What the hell would we keep working for. Do you work for ‘Likes’ no…you work for money. Porn is not sponsored by social media, they do not pay us to be influencers and reimburse us for how many followers we have or likes we get or views we get. We are the mistresses of social media: they want us because we bring them traffic but they don’t want to admit they like cause their wives will not approve. IF you do watch the porn for free, Don’t’ tell us, Don’t rub it in our face. That’s like me going into the apple store bragging about how I stole their product from Costco
time is the single most valuable thing we have in this life. It’s irreplacable and taken for granted. I’m going to echo what I just said. PORN STARS ARE NOT PAID LIKE ONLINE INFLUENCERS. WE GET NOTHING FOR THE NUMBER OF FOLLOWERS WE HAVE OR LIKES WE GET OR VIEWS WE GET ON SOCIAL MEDIA. Social Media tries to do everything in their power to keep us from being on their platform publically. The time we spend online is used to engage with who we want when we want, how we want. If you send us one reply to one of our posts, chances are it gets overlooked. Don’t write us 30 follow-ups, We will get to it when we can. Also if we do respond once, that’s not an invitation to write us a million times. We don’t have time to be pen pals with every single person who writes us. I’m a little torn on the next part I’m going to write here as I have heard so many arguments from both sides of the coin but this is the truth. If you want to interact with a porn star, The fastest, easiest way to guarantee he or she writes you back is to offer a token of appreciation in advance in monetary form. Sigh there I said it. I try my damndest to reply to everyone who writes me comprehensive things. If I can not make out what you are trying to say, I will ignore you because I assume it’s coming from a bot. Nobody has time for bots. I do get a TON of messages and I do try to get back to everyone. I appreciate the folks who pop in and just say ” hey just saying hi keep up the good word, that’s all” and I reply and they are content with the one response. It gets really difficult when I do respond and then the fan opens the portal of hell asking questions that I have answered 199878 times already in posts and the slue of questions keep coming in from them. They want minute by minute recounts of what’s going on in my life. I guarantee they would never treat someone they know if real life this way. When this happens I tend to “silence” these people. I know no matter how much attention I give them, it will not be enough and they will keep trying to suck more and more time out of me. I don’t have the resourced to dedicate to that, no person does. I believe that interacting with fans is a duty ( hehe I said doody) to interact and give the fans an experience to an extent. I also know time is valuable which is why I have MY redline of where I need to stop interacting unless I’m getting some sort of compensation. Each porn star is different on where they draw their redline but in general, if you offer to compensate them for their time in your first correspondence with them, they will be more likely to engage. This doesn’t make us assholes, its business. Do you go to your therapist and try to talk to them for free? do they talk to you for free? does your accountant talk to you for free? Chatting with a porn star fills a need in you to feel like you have some companionship. It’s a service. Some of the services will be free but when you want more and more of that service, there should be compensation. Like any other business, time is money
“Like any other businss, Time is Money”
#6 leads into #7 here. We understand that you are super passionate about porn but here’s the thing. There’s a fine line between being passionate and being a stalker so it’s best for porn stars to err on the side of caution because historically, being too nice has literally KILLED US. There are a handful of porn stars that have been murdered by adoring fans. I personally have had two incredibly insane stalkers and it is scary stuff. The sad thing is, the type of people who become this dangerous would not know they are the ones we are talking about. The stalkers tend to think the people they are infatuated with are mutually in love with them. They belive we give code messages to them. I had a stalker write me from 5 different email addresses, pretending to be multiple different people and in their emails to me mentioned how they got my code messages from tweets I was sending ( trust me there were no code messages being sent out). You can’t rationalize with crazy and for that, a porn star needs to keep an extra guard up. We need to “FUCK POLITENESS” and look out for our well being. So if that means we block you because you are acting rather strange, so be it. I can’t teach you how not to be crazy. Sorry, I don’t have tips on how to fix this other than…seek the help you need.
Do porn stars fuck average joes? ABSOLUTELY!!! Many of the models escort and you may be able to hire them for a special night…you need to look up the laws in your areas, however, to stay out of trouble. I’m willing to bet if you are in the US, most likely it will be illegal to pay for sex. I think that’s the stupidest law in the world, but I’m not writing this post to talk about bad laws. Porn stars date and even marry average joes and janes. How we meet those people varies. Porn stars get many offers for guys who want to hook up. I’m not going to lie, there are some girls who are really THAT horny and will fuck anyone who asks ( GOD I LOVE THEM FOR THAT, THE FACT THEY EVEN HAVE TIME FOR THAT…I’m JEALOUS) bless their hearts. I know hooking up with people is numbers game. You need to casually ask 1000 people and maybe you will be 1 person to say yes. So maybe you’re playing the numbers games with porn stars in hopes to increase your yes to no ratio. Kudos to you but don’t get your expectations up too high and don’t get angry when a woman turns you down. I know we are in the age of Incels but women are not turning you down because WE are the problem. You may be getting turned down because of your approach. If you are only writing a girl because you wanna fuck that’s your prerogative but as I mentioned before, Porn stars are business people and if you can’t contribute to their business, don’t get mad if they turn you down.
I’m keeping this list simple. Basically the moral of the story is to treat porn stars like normal people because we are normal people. And hey, if you’re a porn star reading this I hope it helped you as well in understanding the fans’ point of view. Let’s all be kind to each other. Influence the world with good, give a little so you can get a little, scratch each other’s backs. We need fans to support us so they can vote on laws that help us rather than laws that hurt us. If a fan watches one of your videos for free, don’t get too upset, that fan may just be the swing vote we need to protect doing the things we love. Being bitchy to them may just influence them to vote to destroy an industry that seemly rejects them. Thank you and keep fighting the good fight, Bring a smile to someone today and always be kind to yourself.
I’ve been trying to get somewhat regular updates for my Submissive X series. I will most likely NOT be building a membership site for this series. I’m finding it hard to juggle updating 3 sites right now, www.evolvedfights.com, www.evolvedfightslez.com and also submissivex.com It takes a lot out of me to booking models, accommodations for the shoots, maintaining the studio building, star in movies, edit movies, market everything, do customer services. currently, I can not hire anyone to delegate any of this work to since all these projects are in their infancy and not bringing in enough money to pay someone else. I do enjoy shooting all this content and I would like to continue.
Without any further ado, Let me tell you about my most recent shoot with Kelli Provocateur. I’ve known Kelli for a few years now. She has wrestled for me on various websites. She’s a sweetheart, a little wild and very fun. I think I get along with Kelli so much because we have a lot in common. She’s petite albeit she is smaller than even I. She has a muscular build, she’s into fitness. I immediately have a rapport with fitness people because there is a mutual respect for people who discipline their workout and diet. After spending some time with Kelli, I have learned a lot about her and I really really think she’s amazing. It’s always fun and easy to be submissive to someone you hold in high regard. For the Submissive X shoots, I write and direct all the shoots to live out My fantasy. Since Kelli is notorious for being a great trainer, I thought it would be fun to do a scene where she is training me, being mean yet seductive at the same time and then having her way with me.
Here’s a trailer for our scene which can be found at www.submissiveX.com